While I cannot condone being lied to for years. I can understand my father's reasons. Suffice is to say that his reasons were good at the time, these days there is no stigma attached.
One story my father used to tell me was about how he was on the Empress of India, on his way to India, when he witnessed the sinking of HMS Rawalpindi http://www.clydesite.co.uk/clydebuilt/viewship.asp?id=15391 by the Scharnhorst.
Without going into details of my father's service career - something I didn't get knowledge of until much later - from the start, I realized somethings didn't fit.
The first flaw in the story is my father said he left the UK from Liverpool for India. This is true, he did his square-bashing not far away, in Blackpool. From this point on there are a number of obvious inconsistencies in the story.
My geography knowledge has always been very good, and from the start I saw no reason why a ship heading to India would head up to Scotland. The obvious route is the Irish Sea, English Channel, down past Africa and around Cape Horn.
The next flaw was the route taken would have been along the west of Ireland. This route would expose the convoy to the U-boat wolf packs that patrolled the Atlantic - especially as Eire (Southern Ireland) - was a neutral state at the time, and still is. The IRA often do border raids, and before the Garda (border police) can get them, they cross into Eire.
As the years passed, and my interest in the "incident" grew, more flaws came to light with internet research.
At the time of the sinking, my father was still in England. Photos he took show him in Yorkshire as late as 1944. There is no way he could have witnessed a sinking that took place in 1939.
With help from my friend, Julia, we clarified there was NO ship by the name of Empress of India launched. She was the Duchess of Bedford - a RMS - a mail ship for the Canadian Pacific line. There were plans to rename her Empress of India, but with the Indian Independence of 1947 she had a name change.
By my father's admission, he didn't get to India until close to the end of 1944, this enabled him to witness an event the history books omit http://www.socialisthistorysociety.co.uk/RAF04.HTM